The other side of sadness : what the new science of bereavement tells us about life after loss [Book]Material type: TextPublication details: New York Basic Books 2009 Description: Pbk, 240 pISBN: 0465013600Subject(s): Loss | Bereavement | PsychologyDDC classification: 155.00 BON
|The Thérèse Brady Library
|155.00 BON (Browse shelf(Opens below))
9780465013609 (alk. paper)
CIP record. Publication date: 09 09
The worst thing that could ever happen -- A bit of history -- Sadness and laughter -- Resilience -- Whatever gets you through the night -- Relief -- When grief takes over -- Terror and curiosity -- Between was and is and will be -- Global soul -- Chinese bereavement ritual -- And in the end.
He once helped debunk the theory of repressed memory; now this Columbia clinical psychology professor takes on the conventional wisdom about grieving. There's little evidence to support the existence of stages of mourning or the corollary that if the stages aren't followed completely, there's cause for alarm. What Bonanno does find is a natural resilience that guides us through the sadness of loss, and grief, rather than distracting us, actually causes the mind to focus; it also elicits the compassion and concern that humans are hard-wired to offer in response to another's suffering. Bonanno acknowledges that grief is sometimes extreme and requires treatment, much like post-traumatic stress disorder. But with this work, science and common sense come together in a thoughtful, kindhearted way; stories of loss go far beyond striking a familiar chord—they give us hope. As one mother who lost her daughter tells Bonanno, even years later she felt her daughter was like a little ember, and if I need to, if I want to have Claire next to me, I blow on it, ever so gently, and it glows bright again